Do you know someone who has suffered a loss? Here’s what to say.
Losing a loved one is one of the hardest things anyone can experience. While we want to express our sympathy, sometimes it’s hard to find the right words. Read more for the appropriate and meaningful things to say when someone passes.
Keep it Simple
Try to avoid conjuring up old feelings or memories that the bereaved is not ready to hear. People who are grieving are already dealing with many emotions and may not want to hear old stories. Keep your words modest by saying: “I’m sorry for your loss,” “There are no words to express how sorry I am,” “You’re in my thoughts and prayers,” or a simple “I’m sorry.” They will know your heart is in the right place.
Everyone deals with loss in different ways. Some people may be more emotional or even closed off. Do not assume your feelings are the same as the one who is in mourning. The best way to express empathy is to say: “I wish I could take away the pain you’re experiencing,” “I know this is hard, we are thinking about you and your family,” or “My heart aches for you and your family, you will be in my prayers.”
Offer a Helping Hand
After a loved one has passed, many people can become overwhelmed with life. Finances, upkeeping of the home, work and family commitments can leave the bereaved stressed. Offer support by saying: “I’m here for you, please let me know if there is anything I can do” or “I’m just a phone call away, please do not hesitate to call if you need to talk.” You can also offer to cook dinner or go grocery shopping. Sometimes just a small act of kindness can help ease the pain of grief.
Reminisce About the Person
Spend time reflecting on the deceased if the bereaved feels ok discussing him or her. The best way to express this is by saying: “John was a shining light. I will remember his smile and laughter”, “Brittany brought so much joy to this world,” or “Tom was always there for anyone in a time of need. We will miss him very much”.
Show How You Feel
Sometimes it’s what we do that speaks louder than words. A simple hug, holding the hands of the one grieving, or just being with that person in their time of need can bring comfort. Let them know how sorry you are for their loss and that you are there for anything they may need.
There is no timetable on the amount of grief one will go through when someone passes. Most of the time people need a shoulder to cry on, a friend who will listen and kind words that will help through the toughest time in their life.
Mobile Memorial Gardens Cemetery is a non-profit cemetery located at 6100 Three Notch Road in Mobile, Alabama. We are here to help those who are in need and make it a priority to preserve the memories of your loved ones in a dignified, honorable and comfortable place. Visit us online at www.mobilememorialgardens.org or on our Facebook page. If you have suffered a loss and would like to speak to us, please call us at 251-661-1333.
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